Do I Really Know My Son?

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There are lot's of distractions in a man's life, many of which are even legitimate, (like working to provide for our families) that prevent us from thinking about how we're doing in our leadership in the home. During a workshop I did this past Saturday designed to help equip dads to speak to their sons I handed out this set of "diagnostic questions." It was designed as a thought provoker. Hopefully you find it helpful as well.

Diagnostic Questions:

As fathers we should be growing in our expertise concerning our families. The word ‘husband’ literally means ‘manager’ and all husbands and fathers should be ‘managers of their homes. Good managers know the strengths and weaknesses of the people on their team. Because of this fathers should know their children well and should be progressing in that knowledge. To put it bluntly, If you know your teams baseball teams stats better than you know your son’s stats your priorities are wacked.

These questions are designed to help you asses how well you know your sons and to give you some ideas regarding where to start learning. There are lot’s more that could be asked but this is a good start.

1.      What words would you use to describe your son?

2.      Does your son understand and love the Gospel?

3.      What are your son’s strengths and natural abilities?

4.      What are your son’s weaknesses and the kinds of tasks that they struggle with?

5.      What areas of sin does your son struggle with? (The weaknesses above should be distinguished from sins. They are not the same thing).

6.      How will the realities of questions 4 and 5 affect him as he grows older?

7.      What are you doing to nurture his gifts?

8.      What are you doing to help him overcome the sins with which he struggles?

9.      What are his worries?

10.  What are his favorite activities?

11.  Who would he consider his good friends?

12.  When was the last time you had a meaningful conversation with your son when you weren’t scolding or disciplining him?

13.  Does he enjoy your company

14.  Do you enjoy his company

15.  When was the last time you repented to your son?


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Email Me with questions or needs: dgregg@csbministries.org