My very British grandmother became a nurse at the age of 14 as the war with
Germany was escalating and the Germans were practicing the newly developed and
imprecise science of rocketry on the stiff upper lips of Londoners. This meant
that each time my grandmother took the train back to the hospital in London
where she worked, another building around the hospital was gone, along with the
people who were in it at the time the rocket fell. In spite of this daily
danger the doctors and nurses, including my grandmother, stubbornly fixed their
jaws and served the people of London, running up to the roof to extinguish
incendiary bombs as they fell on the roof, rescuing patients from the basement
as it flooded with water from a broken water main, and in countless other ways
demonstrating a kind of courage that we rarely see in o
ur soft and
self-centered world today.
As I seek to help young men to understand why they should love the Bible and
how to approach such a unique text, it has occurred to me that the same reasons
my heart would beat a little faster and a smile would creep over my face as I heard
my grandmother tell her stories are the same reasons that should cause us to
thrill at the message of the Bible.
Why should I have cared so much about my grandmother’s stories? My
grandmother is dead. I wasn't
Monday, December 9, 2013
Friday, November 15, 2013
An Update on Karen's Neck
This is what the x-ray looked like right after surgery. |
But two weeks ago at her two week post-operation appointment we got news that was made me take another deep breath.
The bracket that was affixed to karen's vertebrae has 4 screws. Two are screwed into her C-6 vertebrae and two are screwed into her T-1. These screws were inserted straight. Unfortunately, after two weeks the x-ray showed that the screws had "subsided." That means that the bone is was not strong enough to support the screws and they had beguin to slip. At the appointment two weeks ago the Dr. said that if they stayed where they are then he would be happy and no further surgery would be needed. If, however at our next apointment on November 26th the screws have slipped or the plate has no longer flush against her vertebrae than that will most likely require a new surgery, this time approaching from the back of the spine. This is not preferred for lots of reasons.
This is a model of a bracket and screws similar to what was used for Karen |
Please pray that the screws find a nice solid home in the bone and no longer slip. Karen has increased her calcium and D-3 intake to help. We are also trying to get a bone stimulator which apparently helps improve bone strength. Please pray we can get one and that it helps.
Thanks for your prayers!
Friday, November 1, 2013
The Sexual Sneeze
What can you say when a young man seems to be struggling over and over with the same sin? On the one hand he hates it and on the other he loves it. So what kind of counsel can you give? The short answer is the answer that we should always turn to: The Gospel. For those of us that have forgotten let me remind you, this means "good news." Good news is not the same as excusing sin but it also does not mean loading a boat load of guilt and shame on the back of a young man or woman already burdened by their sin. Fortunately the Gospel is simple enough to be grasped by a small child but is also vast and deep enough to provide a pool of resources to prevent you from needing to become a broken one dimensional record.
Below is a letter I wrote to a young man struggling with lust and who had fallen once again. My hope in this letter was to remind him of the grace of God as well as the significance of the sin that he continued to turn to using some analogies that I thought might be helpful. I hope you find the letter helpful as well.
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Nick,
I was praying for you this morning and reflecting on the
last fall you had. The focus of my prayer was directed at asking God to grant
you a growing keenness and awareness of your actions. It’s so easy to allow
life to slip by in a thoughtless series of reflexes. Many men go through their
whole life doing things and thinking things based solely on the urges they feel
in the moment. This way of approaching life could hardly be called making
decisions. It is more appropriate for animals than men. And yet men often
ignore the responsibility that attends the blessing of being divine image
bearers and choose to behave as if our impulses are the standard of acceptable
behavior.
As I mentioned previously, this is the modus operandi of childishness. So as I pray for you I pray that
this aspect of childishness will be replaced by an acute mindfulness of the
motivation and telos of every
decision you make. As Paul admonished the Corinthians in 2 Corinthians 10:5
“take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.” This means we are
always on our guard, and it also means that we have a healthy suspicion of our
own motives because as Jeremiah announces in Chapter 17:9 of his denunciation
against rebellious Israel, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and
desperately sick; who can understand it?”
I fully understand why within the course of three fleeting
minutes you could turn from Albertus Magnus to masturbation. Your approach to
the latter subject has until now lacked the kind of mindfulness that should
always be present whenever we approach a subject of power, potency and
importance.
But until now, it appears that your approach toward
masturbation and probably your sexuality in general is more akin to the character
Scotty Smalls in the movie the Sand Lot
in the infamous but hilarious “great Bambino scene.”
You can see a clip of that scene here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xyFaLT-L2uk
But remember how Scotty, needing a ball to play baseball
with grabbed the signed baseball from his step-dad’s room and used it to play
with not having any clue that it had been signed by Babe Ruth. And of course
the ball gets destroyed and hilarity ensues. We laugh and groan at Scotty, but
we are
He Bravely Confessed His Sin. This Was My Initial Response.
Mike,
He bravely confessed his sin. This was my initial response. |
I understand the risk you took in being so open and honest.
It took quite a bit of courage I know. There is no need to hold your breath
regarding my response, if that indeed was what you are feeling. My respect for
you has only increased. You are not alone in your battle. Where you stand among
the few is in your willingness to both seriously battle your lust as well as to
talk about it and ask for help.
Believe it or not I love the fact that you wrote a lot! I
tend to write long tomes and appreciate someone else who is willing to afflict
me right back! J
I also want to be very clear. I do not consider any of the time or effort that
I have or will invest in you as a burden. The church is far to full of young
men who couldn’t care an iota about Jesus Christ, obedience to him, growing in
sanctification, purity, the lost around them, or any of the other things that
have eternal value. You will not have a real sense for how encouraging it is
for ME to get a message like the one you just sent until you have enough years
under your belt to be looking back at the next generation. If some time,
prayer, genuine concern, well meant nagging, and annoyingly specific questions
can help you thrive in your growth as a man of God then I am perfectly willing
to do these things with a happy heart. You get my drift?
I do ask a few things from you in return.
- Promise to be honest
- Promise to discerningly help other young men
- Promise to train your sons so that YOU become their chief source of accountability. In this way your sons will be spared the heartache that you and I experienced due to the abdication of the previous generation regarding these “taboo” subjects.
Deal?
Isn’t it interesting how in the Church, of all places, where
we teach and understand the total depravity of man and the deceitfulness of
sin, we feel this dastardly ironic compunction to wear masks and erect facades
of sinless perfection? We of all people should be open and honest, right? Not
gratuitously, but honestly. Some of us adults think that we can protect our
children from lust in all its forms by simply keeping the world out. Even
assuming that this is possible, as one Puritan put it,
Saturday, October 26, 2013
Why Not Africa?
I often look at my friends doing mission work in interesting and needy places like Africa and ask myself “why would we bother to plant our ministry right here at home?” We are privileged in every comparable way to the suffering peoples who comprise the majority of the world’s population. Why would I want to serve people who often times think their biggest problem is the barista forgetting that they ordered a NON-fat quad grande six pump vanilla one inch steamed breve Americano? But the answer that seems so clear to me and that drives me with passion every day is that this is NOT the biggest problem that we privileged Americans are suffering.
The reality is that our culture has medicated our sin by
covering it over by the white noise of our first world problems. This certainly
begins with the sins of abdication and rebellion that are so clear once the
surface of our privilege is scratched, but my concern deepens and adds urgency
to the mission of our ministry when I consider the disaster toward which our
culture is so unwittingly racing.
If the church does not arrest this spiral of prodigal
rebellion, if we continue to squander the inheritance with which God has
blessed us, then we should not pretend that we will continue to have all these
lovely first world blessings to help us ignore our growing intimacy with sin.
But even with this harsh criticism still hanging in the air,
it is not fear that is my primary motivator. If that was all I had then it
would be easier to simply hide rather than to fight. What really gets me out of
bed excited each morning is that I see every day the life changing work that
God is doing in the lives of men and boys, Fathers and sons. Though most of
this would never be sexy enough to find its ways into a made for TV movie, I
believe that God is laying the deep and lasting groundwork for a revival that
will reform our culture in a way that
eventually WILL be noticed in the history books.
We hope that the stories we’ve included in this blog will
give you a strong sense for what God is doing and that you will be inspired to
join us in our ministry through prayer and financial support.
If you have been considering becoming a financial partner in
our ministry please know that now is the time when we really need your help.
Please prayerfully consider supporting our ministry as God has seen fit to
bless you.
In Christ,
A very grateful Gregg Family!
A Letter From a Dad
Our program ministries (Tree Climbers, Stockade, Battalion),
as well as our summer camp ministry www.SequoiaBrigadeCamp.org) are designed
to foster a context of discipleship. Often this provides great opportunity for
Dads to engage their sons and to be challenged to respond more consistently to
the call that God has placed on their life to walk alongside their sons and to
help them grow into godly men.
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This is a letter I received after one of our camps this
summer. My hope in sharing this is that you will be encouraged and that you
will also come to better understand the kind of ministry to which God has
called us.
Dear Dave,Thanks for the great week of camp. It was a great experience for Jason and me. I was reviewing the week with my wife and noticing all the areas of growth opportunities I had written down, both for Jason and myself. A totally worthwhile experience. I was continuously impressed by the focus of the camp, the subject matter of the Bible Ex and the Christian maturity of all the leaders.Spending the week with you cemented my belief that God has placed you in your position with great wisdom and purpose. You did a fantastic job in engaging all the campers and providing an excellent example of a Christian man. Both Jason and Josh spoke highly of you all the way home.
I'll continue to pray about ways that God can use me and specifically the areas you mentioned.This week convicted me on areas in my roll as Father to my boys where I need to grow. God resounded two words that came through in nearly every Bible Ex, devotion and memory verse this week.• Passitivity• SelfishnessI've been too passive in allowing misbehavior in my family. That passivity has also trickled down to my mentorship of Jason’s spiritual growth. I've also been convicted about several areas that, while I claim are with selfless motivation, are really selfish areas I need to eliminate. I appreciate your prayers as I work to make these areas reflect God's will for my life.Your brother in Christ,Chris
Dorito Stains and Other Annoyances
There’s nothing natural about that orange color that they
put in Doritos. And it does unnatural things to van upholstery that deserves a
warning label. Neon upholstery isn’t the only evidence of another long summer
of camping ministry. Our van is abused, filthy, and completely used up by the
end of each summer. Garbage, sand, dirt, body odor blending with the smell of
salt air, lonely socks, and miscellaneous electronic equipment are lodged like
the casualties of war in every conceivable crevice.
Honestly, by the last week of camp I also feel like a
casualty of war. Physically, emotionally, spiritually battered. Willing but
wasted. It was in this depleted and slightly irritable state, as I drove a
handful of weary junior counselors up from our last boy’s camp in southern
California, that I had a short and surprising conversation.
A month prior to this moment Bob Nass and I had spent half a
week training some pretty green counselors on the details of counseling boys.
At that point it seemed to them, as it always does prior to stepping onto the
field, that the task ahead would roll from one touchdown to another. Difficult
… yes, but smiles the whole way. But a month later the silence of exhaustion
was only softly broken by the periodic tapping of phones texting friends and
family back home, held in hands attached to bodies sprawled on the bench seats
of my van.
“Is it as frustrating for you to deal with us junior
counselors as it is for us to deal with campers?”
Hmmm … that had come out of nowhere. This kind of candid
self-reflection deserved an equally candid response. “Yes Matt. It can be
difficult … but it’s worth it.” I responded. “I love you guys and because of
that I don’t ignore where you are today, but I also don’t focus so much on
where you are today as much as where I see you heading. That encouraging
prospect gives me the hope that provides joy in the midst of what can sometimes
be very frustrating.” That was pretty much the end of the conversation but I
could see a thoughtful and satisfied look rest on his face as I glanced in the
rear view mirror. I hope he felt as encouraged as I did.
How many young men would have the ability to think so
critically about themselves? There was so much good packed into that simple
question. And it points out not only the caliber of young men that we have each
summer serving as counselors at camp, but also reveals the major thrust of our
camps. For sure our camps are about the campers who attend, but an enormous
goal of our ministry is to pour into the lives of the junior counselors. Just
consider the exciting opportunity that represents: a month of 24/7 training and
discipleship through living and serving together.
The fruit we see each summer in the lives of our counselors
is certainly worth a van defaced by months of ministry, and even a body wearied
by the task.
Sunday, October 20, 2013
Content With A Broken Neck
Seven years ago Karen was in the middle of body-abusing radiation treatments for brain cancer that had been discovered a few weeks before when I'd come home to find my wife unconscious on the floor. Those moments of fear and confusion seven years ago waiting for the ambulance, the pallor of death, the unconscious fear and confusion animating her face ... that picture forced it's way onto the mantelpiece of my consciousness like an unwelcome memorial where it will sit for the rest of my life.I have been spared familiarity with death, but I have not been spared familiarity with the look of a body in shock, desperately trying to gather its fading resources to to stave off that dark enemy.
The morning prior to that collapse seven years ago she'd woken with a headache and nausea and had been resting all day. Loathe to spend an entire day unproductive in bed She'd come into the living room to rest where life was still buzzing around her. I found her laying there on the floor after rushing home from errands with the most important goal on my mind at that time being to get Josh to his soccer practice. When I saw her unresponsive on the floor my priorities, and in fact my life, found a whole new order.
It was seven years ago this past Tuesday that our life was forced out of its comfortable unbroken tedium. This past Tuesday had the same cadence to it. Karen hadn't been feeling that well; a passing bug that had already inconvenienced many of our friends. An upset stomach had tried and done a pretty decent job of keeping her in bed much of the day. It was around 9:30pm and the girls were already in bed and asleep. Josh and I were sitting on the couch watching a video on dog training, an activity that indicates just how far from our minds was another life changing moment. Karen slowly walked down stairs having had as much as she could take of the prone position. A normal person in her weakened condition probably would have ambled over to the couch to rest. But if Karen is not asleep then she is doing something productive. So she made her way to the kitchen. I looked over and noticed her apparently unloading the dish washer. My attention turned back to the video and my hopes of a well trained fox terrier.
That was the last moment of comfortable normalcy we will experience for the foreseeable future.
The morning prior to that collapse seven years ago she'd woken with a headache and nausea and had been resting all day. Loathe to spend an entire day unproductive in bed She'd come into the living room to rest where life was still buzzing around her. I found her laying there on the floor after rushing home from errands with the most important goal on my mind at that time being to get Josh to his soccer practice. When I saw her unresponsive on the floor my priorities, and in fact my life, found a whole new order.
It was seven years ago this past Tuesday that our life was forced out of its comfortable unbroken tedium. This past Tuesday had the same cadence to it. Karen hadn't been feeling that well; a passing bug that had already inconvenienced many of our friends. An upset stomach had tried and done a pretty decent job of keeping her in bed much of the day. It was around 9:30pm and the girls were already in bed and asleep. Josh and I were sitting on the couch watching a video on dog training, an activity that indicates just how far from our minds was another life changing moment. Karen slowly walked down stairs having had as much as she could take of the prone position. A normal person in her weakened condition probably would have ambled over to the couch to rest. But if Karen is not asleep then she is doing something productive. So she made her way to the kitchen. I looked over and noticed her apparently unloading the dish washer. My attention turned back to the video and my hopes of a well trained fox terrier.
That was the last moment of comfortable normalcy we will experience for the foreseeable future.
Wednesday, September 18, 2013
Father/Son Team Day 2013 Memory Verse
For
you go-getters, planners, and competitive types, here is this years
memory verse for the Father/Son Team day. The memory verse is highly
weighted not to mention the most important activity you can do with your
son.
1 Peter 1:13-19 13 Therefore, preparing your minds for action, and being sober-minded, set your hope fully on the grace that will be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ. 14 As obedient children, do not be conformed to the passions of your former ignorance, 15 but as he who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, 16 since it is written, "You shall be holy, for I am holy." 17 And if you call on him as Father who judges impartially according to each one's deeds, conduct yourselves with fear throughout the time of your exile, 18 knowing that you were ransomed from the futile ways inherited from your forefathers, not with perishable things such as silver or gold, 19 but with the precious blood of Christ, like that of a lamb without blemish or spot.The verse above is in the English Standard Version. You are free to learn it in any translation you prefer but please bring a copy of that version for use in judging the competition.
Thursday, September 12, 2013
Who gets to take credit?
And herein lies the tension. God calls us to act, but not in our strength. |
Me: "I am glad that things are going so well! I'm curious on two things you mention above. The first is probably one of the biggest questions I have as I think through the actual process of sanctification and especially as I come alongside young men who are dealing with besetting purity issues. The fact is that we are not puppets at the end of cosmic strings. We are volitional creatures, free agents who must exercise our freedom (though not a libertarian freedom in the philosophical sense). However, you and I both know that God never blesses us when we try to find victory in our own strength. And herein lies the tension. God calls us to act, but not in our strength. So I am seeking to understand this tension better over time at least in terms of how to counsel myself and others as we seek to be faithful people but not in our own strength. So in the past when you've gotten too confident and had not been trusting God, would it be possible to explain what the lack of trust looked like and what you believe the more appropriate response now looks like? I figure over time with help from guys like you I might be able to be more helpful in aiding guys to understand more concretely what that looks like even if we never really understand how to bring the two together completely."
My Young Friend: "I feel that when I begin trusting myself it begins to manifest itself in my thought life. When I'm tempted I'll say things like "no, I'm not going to do that." Instead of calling on The Lord for help. I will mentally muscle through. Also, I think that it happens when a complacency sets in. I'm not spending the time in prayer or the word that I need to be. When that happens, it is usually only a matter of time before I fall."
I noticed one thing that jumped out at me from his response to my question. The actions that he takes that produce the faithful response he seeks are acts that communicate weakness. Turning to God in confession, the very act of prayer itself, fleeing into the strong tower of God's word, they are all confessions of weakness and need even if the words themselves are never spoken. This may not be a great answer to the philosophical tension that nags at me but I think I'm OK living with that tension.
Thursday, August 29, 2013
What Robin and Miley Really Showed Us
Discipleship should not wait until our culture shocks us into action. |
That spectacle was simply the consistent expression of a culture that has for the past couple generations been progressively disconnecting itself from any of the biblical moorings that kept the storm of relativism from sweeping us out to die at sea. That performance was simply the death throw of a culture that has given itself over to the god of self. Responding in shock only makes us look like we haven't been paying attention.
But wait ... maybe that's the problem. Maybe we haven't been paying attention. At least not in the ways that count. If our kids somehow got a glimpse of that show and weren't automatically appalled, then we have not talked with our kids enough or about the things that matter.
Discipleship should not wait until our culture shocks us into action. Christians are guilty of waiting until our hand is forced by the cultural influences around us, but by that time it is basically too late.
What is needed are parents who see every moment as an opportunity to disciple their children. From the baby seat, to the driver seat, and beyond. A culture of discipleship in the home that so saturates life that they are savvy enough to know the ugliness they can expect at the Video Music Awards and thus simply avoid them. And when the ugliness of a godless culture lands square in front of them, they have seen so much beauty placed before them that they are repulsed, though not surprised that this is what a fallen world is producing and placing before us as art.
We should be producing girls who have been taught in word and by example that they are special, their bodies are special, and that they are not objects to be consumed. And young men who we have intentionally taught to recognize the counterfeit of pornography and who view women not as objects to be consumed but rather as image bearers of God to be honored.
If any good can come from the shocking display the other night let it be a shedding of the lethargy that so often constitutes the bulk of modern parental discipleship. If you are not still talking to your children about this subject next week and all the weeks that follow then for all your shock you are still only a part of the problem.
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